放爱一条生路(Let love a way out)

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theotherdayasitalkedwithafriendirecalledastorythatiheardthissummer."apassionateperson,seeingabutterflystrugglingtofreeitselffromitscocoon,andwantingtohelp,verygentlyloosenedthefilamentstoformanopening.thebutterflywasfreed,emergedfromthecocoon,andflutteredaboutbutcouldnotfly.whatthepassionatepersondidnotknowwasthatonlythroughthebirthstrugglecanthewingsgrowstrongenoughforflight.itsshortenedlifewasspentontheground;itneverknewfreedom,neverreallylived."

icallitlearningtolovewithanopenhand.itisalearningwhichhaseslowlytomeandhasbeenwroughtinthefiresofpainandinthewatersofpatience.iamlearningthatimustfreetheoneilove,forificlutchorcling,trytocontrol,ilosewhatitrytohold.ifitrytochangesomeoneilovebecauseifeeliknowhowthatpersonshouldbe,irobhimorherofapreciousright,therighttotakeresponsibilityforone'sownlifeandchoicesandwayofbeing.wheneveriimposemywishorwantortrytoexertpoweroveranother,irobhimorherofthefullrealizationofgrowthandmaturation.ilimitandpreventbymyactofpossession,nomatterhowkindmyintention.icanlimitandinjurebythekindestactsofprotectionorconcern.overextendeditcansaytotheotherpersonmoreeloquentlythanwords,"youareunabletocareforyourself;imusttakecareofyoubecauseyouaremine.iamresponsibleforyou."

asilearnandpracticemoreandmore,icansaytotheoneilove:"iloveyou,ivalueyou,irespectyouanditrustthatyouhavethestrengthtobeeallthatitispossibleforyoutobee-ifidon'tgetinyourway.iloveyousomuchthaticansetyoufreetowalkbesidemeinjoyandinsadness.iwillshareyourtearsbutiwillnotaskyounottocry.iwillrespondtoyourneeds.iwillcareandfortyou,butiwillnotholdyouupwhenyoucanwalkalone.iwillstandreadytobewithyouinyourgriefandlonelinessbutiwillnottakeitawayfromyou.iwillstrivetolistentoyourmeaningaswellasyourword,butishallnotalwaysagree.sometimesiwillbeangryandwheniam,iwilltrytotellyouopenlysothatineednothateourdifferencesorfeelestranged.icannotalwaysbewithyouorhearwhatyousayfortherearetimeswhenimustlistentomyselfandcareformyself,andwhenthathappensiwillbeashonestwithyouasicanbe."iamlearningtosaythis,whetheritbeinwordsorinmywayofbeingwithothersandmyself,tothoseiloveandforwhomicare.andthisicalllovingwithanopenhand.

icannotalwayskeepmyhandsoffthecocoon,butiamgettingbetteratit!