远离坏习惯(Stay away from bad habits)

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badhabitsareamongtheworstenemiesoflivinglifetothefullest.why?becausehabitissomethingwedooverandoveragain.whilewedootherkindsofmistakesoasionally,badhabitissomethingwedoconsistentlyovertime.ifevenonemistakecandragyourlifedown,youcanimaginewhatkindofdamagebadhabitscando.

tomakemattersworse,oftenwedon’trealizethatwehavebadhabits.wethinkthatwejustliveourlifeasusualwhileweareactuallymakingmistakesagainandagain.it’slikehavingleaksinourshipwithoutrealizingit.

sobreakingbadhabitsshouldbeamongyourtopprioritiestogetthemostoutofyourlife.ifyoudoitright,andyouareonyourwaytomakesignificantimprovementsinyourlife.

thefirststeptobreakingthebadhabitsistoidentifythem.onlyafteridentifyingthemcanyoudecidetodosomethingaboutthem.herearetwotipsforidentifyingthebadhabitsyoumighthave:

1.pareyourlifewithyourvaluesystem

doyouliveaordingtoyourvaluesystem?ordoyoudeviatefromithereandthere?yourvaluesystemactslikeapassthatguidesyourlife.whenyoudothingsthatarenotaordingtoyourlifepass,youknowthatyouhaveaproblem.solookforthingsyouconsistentlydothatdeviatefromyourvaluesystem.thoseareyourbadhabits.

2.pareyourlifewitharolemodel

sometimesit’seasiertopareyourlifewithsomeoneelse’slifethantopareitwithanabstractvaluesystem.sofindpeoplewhoselifeyouwanttoemulateandfindthedetailsofhowtheylivetheirlife.isthereanythingtheydon’tdothatyouconsistentlydo?forinstance,perhapstheyareneverlate.you,ontheotherhand,areperpetuallylate.that’sabadhabityoushouldstop.

thenextstepafteridentifyingthebadhabitsistobreakthem.i’mgladifoundsomegoodtipsforitinthebookbeeabetteryoubyjoelosteen.whilethebookisbasedonchristianprinciples,manylessonsinitareuniversallyapplicableincludingitssuggestionsonbreakingbadhabits.herearefourtipstostopbadhabitsbasedonthebook:

1.quitfeedingthebadhabit

therearetwo“wolves”insideusthatfighteachother.onewolfrepresentsgoodhabitswhiletheotherrepresentsbadhabits.whichwolfwillwinthefight?theansweristheoneyoufeed.sobreakingbadhabitisactuallysimple:juststopfeedingit.leavethebadhabitstarveandyouareonyourwaytogetitawayfromyourlife.

2.replaceitwithagoodhabit

quitfeedingthebadhabitisessentialbutit’snotenough.youmustalsoreplaceitwithagoodhabit.otherwisethereisanemptyspaceinyourlifewherethebadhabitcouldgobacktoanytime.

sodevelopagoodhabittoreplacethebadhabit.forinstance,ifyouhavethehabitofthinkingnegativethoughts,youshouldreplaceitwiththehabitofthinkingpositivethoughts.whenevernegativethoughtse,useitasatriggertostartthinkingpositivethoughts.orifyouhavethehabitofeatingunhealthyfood,youcanstartdevelopingthehabitofeatinghealthyfood.justdon’tleavethespaceempty.

3.presspasttheinitialpainanddisfort

whenbreakingabadhabit,thebeginningoftheprocessisthemostdifficult.justlikegettingaspaceshuttleliftedofftheearthtakesenormousamountofpower,italsotakesenormousamountofwillpowertobreakabadhabit.andjustlikemovingaspaceshuttlethathasescapedtheearth’sgravitationalpulltakeslittleenergy,italsotakesonlylittleamountofwillpowertocontinuedoingyournewhabit.

theinitialphaseisthemostdifficult,butitwillbeeeasierandeasierovertime.sowheneveryouthinkthatit’stoodifficulttostayoncourse,justrememberthatitwon’tbesoforlong.youjusthavetokeepmovingforward.

4.make“noexceptions”policy

onceyoudecidetobreakabadhabit,stickwithyourdecision.makenoexceptionstoebacktoitforwhateverreason.iknowit’snoteasy(atleastforme),butthisstepisessentialifyouwanttheprocesstogeteasierovertime.makingexceptionsisliketakingaspaceshuttlebacktoearth;youneedanotherenormousamountofpowertoliftitoffagain.sobecarefulnottomakeexceptionswhenyouaredealingwithbadhabits.

thesefourtipsaresimplebutpowerful.usingthefeedinganalogy,thetipstobreakabadhabitboildowntothis:

quitfeedingthebadhabit.feedagoodoneinstead.

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